Episode-2263- Listener Calls for 8-2-18 — 5 Comments

  1. I thought that somewhere in the wonderful world of poultry there were probably people with experience in chickens for autistic children, and boy, did I guess right. Your caller’s observation of a bird-child bond was by no means unusual; googling “chicken therapy for autism” turns up many first-person accounts. This one,, is especially comprehensive.

    I think Jack’s suggestions were all fine ones. In addition to the bantams that do often relate well to people, some of the larger breeds are very calm; Buff Orpingtons are often cited as good pets. I have a couple of Speckled Sussex; they are pretty chill, and will tolerate light stroking even though I didn’t hand raise them. It sounds as if the poultry project would be great for all three children, and especially for the boy.

    One way to check out the breeds directly is to see if a county or state fair is nearby, or even a swap meet (check Craigslist) or poultry club. I think they are likely to meet owners who are children and talking to them as well as to the parents would help the caller family to decide. And yes, get several birds, and give them very secure night housing.

  2. Salary negotiations, my son recently went thru this.  It helps having more than one company competing for you. Companies do want to know up front if they can afford you before they spend the time and money on in person interviews, creating a job offer, etc.  If they go to the trouble of creating an offer they would like to believe it is one you would seriously consider.  There is a point where 10K more or less is not a deal breaker, but it is about benefits and working conditions.

    While building his reputation, skills, he had less options in negotiations.  Now he gets paid enough that his first screening of potential jobs is can I work remote? do I have to live in California? Portland? Seattle?  Is it a job where if I get the work done in less time, I don’t have to work 60+ hour work week?  Is the work interesting? With a family the work/life balance is very important to him.  His negotiations are more in the line of can I work remote? Can I go into an office occasionally, flexible hours, etc.  (living in Texas vs San Francisco area is a nice pay raise without more $ being paid by employer, he will not live in California at this time that is a deal breaker).

    After working for various startups he has learned to find answers to additional questions.  Does the company have enough funding to see the project thru to completion?  If working as a contractor on a trial basis and the company has issues paying when promised is a big red flag.  Does the startup have a viable product? or are they simply good at getting new investors, spending that cash, then getting more investors, but getting the end product out to consumers is not a priority?  If  company funded thru kickstarter or something similar is keeping those commitments a priority? Is management competent? honest? How much control do you really have over your division?

    Several companies dropped out of the running when they learned who else he was interviewing with, saying we can’t compete with xyz, but wish you the best. (yes they do follow social media, and when you say online you are heading out to xyz for an interview, they often know).   The companies appreciated him letting them know what he was looking for upfront so they could decide whether they would be a good fit for each other before creating the job offer.

  3. txmom,

    All great information! Thanks for sharing your son’s experiences.

    Just keying on social media for a second. You son could have lost a great offer if he had refrained that news from social media. I never post anything on social media that I would not share with a stranger in bar.

  4. My dad used to add gallon and half gallon milk jugs filled with water to the freezer as we took food out to keep the freezer full so a power outage wasn’t so devastating. We did add food frequently, But any air space is a disadvantage when the power is out. It takes less alternative power to keep things from thawing out. It also saves money when the power is on, because water and food is easier to keep cold than air is.