Episode-2542- Listener Calls for 10-31-19 — 3 Comments

  1. Re dementia,

    For the most part, Jack, I think you covered most. In my experience with my grandparents, I found that looking for lucid moments to express my concerns and then offer my help eventually paid off. I wish I could say it was that easy, but because of that conversation early on, the first time my grandmama got lost on her way to the grocery store, we never had to worry again.

    I’m not at all an expert on dementia, but I’ve been around it a lot between family and friends, and in my experience, planting the seed of the idea early may resonate when the time is right.

    I feel for anyone dealing with a loved one going through this, but look for any way you can to honor them with your actions.

  2. Jack,

    I went looking for the Berkey Water Filter App you mentioned today and I can’t find it in the app store. Found a blog post about it from 2014 and the link they referenced was dead.

    If you’re able to find it will you put a link in the show notes please?  Thanks!

  3. Driving issue is tough. My dad no longer drives. It took a while to get to that point.  First he would forget where he was or how to get home. We got him a cell phone. Issue is when he forgot (“sometimers” he called it) how to get home he also forgot how to use the cell phone.
    He got so he wanted someone to ride with him to make sure he was in the right lane.  He did ok going to places a few blocks away which was several stores and church.  But as things got worse, even that was no longer possible.  Last time I rode with him, he almost ran through a red light with oncoming cars.  I yelled stop and he did. Thanked me for not getting hysterical.  Later we explained that if he needed another driver with him to make sure he was driving safely then he no longer needed to be driving.  It was hard for him.
    Fortunately it was time to renew his license and he knew he could not safely drive to the license office and none of us would drive him there.  He got a letter saying he no longer had a license to drive, and that is kept where it can be found if he forgets.
    Having his own vehicles and having others drive him and my mom in them is still helpful to him.
    They have friends who still drive and they go out with them to dinner regularly, my dad paying, their friends driving.  That works well.
    My sister lives next door, just retired, often driving them where they need to go in their cars which they are most comfortable in.

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